Tuesday, March 13, 2012

What It's All About, Ruthie?

What's it all about, Honey?
Is it just for the moment we live?
What's it all about when you sort it out, Ruthie?
Are we meant to take more than we give
or are we meant to be kind?
And if only fools are kind, Ruthie,
then I guess it's wise to be cruel.
And if life belongs only to the strong, Ruthie,
what will you lend on an old golden rule?
As sure as I believe there's a heaven above, Ruthie,
I know there's something much more,
something even non-believers can believe in.
I believe in love, Honey.
Without true love we just exist, Honey.
Until you find the love you've missed you're nothing, Honey.
When you walk let your heart lead the way
and you'll find love any day, Honey, Honey

While our youngest son was visiting from Boston this past weekend, we spent the afternoon with our wise and loving Aunt Ruth.  With excitement, our son showed his Great Aunt Ruth videos of weddings that occurred at the venue where he will marry this May, one day after his great aunt turns 93.  (Yes, those are Aunt Ruth's laptops.  What did you think?!)  

During wedding show-and-tell, my husband inched his way along Aunt Ruth's "great wall."  As he meandered down her photographic life, Aunt Ruth would look up from the laptop's visual of our family's future to recount a memory from her rich past.  

I picked up my camera to take some snapshots, to freeze a moment that joined our past and present with the promise of a future and found myself humming that Burt Bacharach and Hal David song from 1965, Alfie, and replacing Alfie with Aunt Ruth's name and mine as an anthem for the lessons I have learned from this beautiful woman who always knew "without true love we just exist."  I think I am catching on....

Are you?


  1. Yes, a little bit each day, I am catching on...

    big smiles at the photos here!

  2. Love what it's all about. Past present and future. Life.

  3. This is just so marvelous. Thank you, Honey, for conjuring sound and a sense of comfort and profound love in this post. As you know, I am your biggest fan....and then of course Aunt Ruth's too. This post, weaving past, present, and future, encapsulates the richness of your lives, the depth of care that has been lavished on family members through generations. This is heartwarming and life affirming. Thank you for the time I spent in this reverie.

  4. love visiting this place...reminds me of my family and how important it is...;)

  5. I love this Honey - every inch of it!

  6. Love how you've tied the past to the present..and the future joyous event you'all will be experiencing. A wonderful life journey...love it!